Making time for yourself vs. your guilt

As a mam, it’s so easy to feel guilty for even thinking about having a little bit of time just for me. It’s even worse that when I do get a moment of time, my mind fills with a list of jobs; washing, ironing, cooking, cleaning etc. How many of you are like this? My life is one list of endless jobs, which never seems to get smaller.

However this time to yourself is so important and we all need to be providing time to ourselves. Not only is it important to focus on ourselves, it provides us time to relax, focus on regaining our strength, doing something we enjoy and to relish in a different side to everyday life. So why do we feel so guilty when we have this time?

This weekend, me & my husband visited @wbstudiotour and had a child-free night. Something that is very few and far between! My conscience continually battled itself between guilt for not having our boys with us and happiness and relaxation because it’s time to focus on being a couple. It`s been almost 4 years since we were 'just a couple' and sometimes I struggle to remember what life was like before becoming parents.

Even though these inner turmoils take place, I realise the importance of this time to myself and as a couple and know I need to keep making “me time”.

To enable me to be the best person I can be, I need to ensure I am the best I can be and part of this is giving time to myself. I have to admit that when I am worn down, stressed or fed up I know I take it out on my husband - he gets the wrath of me. Totally unfair and unjustified and I again feel so guilty for snapping at the most insignificant things. Part of my journey 'back to nature' is to focus on developing myself (and my family) as a well-rounded individual and to do this, I need to begin taking more me time.

I`ll never forget being told 'do more of what makes you happy'. This is a quote that will stick in my mind everyday to make sure I do at least one thing to make me happy per day.

No one said being an adult or parenting was easy did they? But, I wouldn’t change being a mam to my beautiful, cheeky boys for the world.